In his 2023 memoir Spare, Prince Harry offered a candid and deeply personal reflection on his relationship with his father, King Charles. He portrayed Charles as a man who struggled to express his emotions and found single parenthood challenging. While Harry acknowledged his father’s efforts to be a good parent, he suggested that his own emotional needs were often unmet during childhood.

This emotional disconnect and the complexities of their bond ultimately influenced Harry’s decision to leave the United Kingdom and step back from his role as a working royal.

A royal commentator speculated that, in hindsight, King Charles may regret aspects of his parenting style and the impact it had on both Harry and his older brother, Prince William.

In his memoir, Harry painted a vivid picture of a father who found it difficult to communicate on an emotional level. He described Charles as someone who struggled with intimacy and expressing affection directly. *“He had trouble communicating, trouble listening, trouble being intimate face to face,”* Harry wrote.

Harry recalled specific childhood moments, such as discovering a heartfelt letter from his father on his pillow after a long dinner. In these letters, Charles would express pride in Harry’s achievements.

While these notes were touching, Harry admitted they left him wondering why his father hadn’t simply expressed those sentiments in person. *“I’d smile, place it under my pillow, but also wonder why he hadn’t said this moments ago while seated directly across from me,”* he reflected, highlighting the emotional gap between them.

This emotional distance seemed to have influenced Harry’s own approach to parenting. A royal insider previously told *Radar Online* that Harry is determined to be a more affectionate parent, in stark contrast to the emotional detachment he experienced growing up. His desire to create a warm and nurturing environment for his children likely stems from the void he felt in his relationship with Charles.

Despite claims about Charles’s struggles with emotional expression, his parenting style has also been described as relatively gentle. Royal expert Ingrid Seward provided a nuanced perspective, suggesting that Charles may regret not being firmer with Harry and William during their formative years. *“He has been characterized as an indulgent father—a quality that, while well-intentioned, may have contributed to some of the challenges he faced as a parent,”* she explained. *“Had Charles been stricter with Harry and, to some extent, William, they might not have caused him so much worry.”*

Harry’s reflections also touched on the atmosphere of their household. He conveyed a sense that Charles always appeared somewhat unprepared for the responsibilities of fatherhood. *“He’d always given an air of being not quite ready for parenthood—the responsibilities, the patience, the time,”* Harry observed. However, he also acknowledged his father’s genuine efforts.

He recalled fond memories of their interactions, such as calling out to Charles at bedtime and receiving a cheerful response: *“I’ll be there shortly, darling boy.”* These small gestures, along with moments of physical affection, left a lasting impression on Harry, even if they were often fleeting.

Ingrid Seward added another layer to this complex dynamic, noting that there was a time when Harry and Charles were very close. However, their bond was profoundly affected by the tragic death of Princess Diana.

Following her passing, Charles reportedly maintained the more relaxed parenting style that Diana had favored. *“Diana allowed them to do more or less what they wanted, which was very fashionable in those days. You let children just get on with things,”* Seward explained. She speculated that Charles might now regret this approach, believing that more structure and discipline could have provided Harry and William with clearer boundaries during their youth.

Ultimately, Harry’s memoir paints a complex portrait of a father-son relationship shaped by love, struggle, and emotional distance. As Harry navigates his own path as a parent, he appears determined to break the cycle of detachment and foster a more affectionate and supportive environment for his children.

Meanwhile, reflections from royal experts suggest that King Charles, while well-intentioned, may now find himself contemplating the lessons learned from his own experience as a father.