šŸ’”āž”ļøšŸŒŸ The Courage Behind the Oscars: Sally Field’s heartbreaking past — From a Girl Forced to ā€œDisappearā€ to a Two-Time Oscar Icon Who Finally Told the Truth at 65 šŸ’”šŸŒæ

The Everlasting Audacity of Sally Field's ā€œYou Like Meā€ Oscars Speech |  Vanity Fair

She was five years old when the ground cracked open beneath her tiny feet, swallowing the fragile world she knew. Her mother, Margaret Field—a glamorous actress with a string of B-movies to her name—had just remarried. Into their modest Pasadena home strode Jock Mahoney, a towering figure of Hollywood machismo. He wasn’t merely handsome; he was the kind of man who commanded rooms with a grin that could light up the silver screen. A stuntman who had doubled for legends like Errol Flynn in swashbuckling epics and Gregory Peck in Western showdowns, Mahoney exuded charisma that bordered on mythic. By the 1960s, he would swing through jungles as Tarzan on television, embodying the ultimate alpha male—strong, daring, untouchable.

To outsiders, he was a dream: a stepfather straight out of a fairy tale, blending seamlessly into the glitz of Tinseltown. But for young Sally Margaret Field, born on November 6, 1946, in the sun-drenched suburbs of Southern California, Mahoney’s arrival marked the beginning of a nightmare cloaked in charm. Years later, in her raw, unflinching 2018 memoir In Pieces, Field would lay bare the duality that haunted her: “It would have been so much easier if I’d only felt one thing… but he wasn’t just cruel. He could be magical, the Pied Piper.” That push-pull—of enchantment and terror—wove itself into the fabric of her life, shaping a woman who would dazzle the world on screen while battling invisible demons off it.

The abuse started innocuously enough, or so it seemed to a child desperate for stability. Field’s biological parents had divorced in 1950, when she was just four. Her father, Richard Dryden Field, a pharmacist who had served in World War II, faded into the background, leaving Margaret to navigate single motherhood in an era unforgiving to women. On January 21, 1952, in a quick Tijuana ceremony, Margaret wed Mahoney—real name Jacques O’Mahoney—a man whose rugged good looks and stunt prowess promised security. He adopted Sally and her older brother, Richard Jr., who would grow up to become a renowned physicist. But beneath the facade of family bliss lurked something sinister.

Sally Field's 3 Sons: All About Peter, Eli and SamBy age seven, the violations began. Field recounts in In Pieces how her mother would cheerfully instruct her: “Jocko wants you to walk on his back.” It sounded playful, a game between stepfather and daughter. But once the door closed, the innocence shattered. Mahoney’s “massages” escalated into molestation, his hands invading spaces no child should know. Field describes the confusion, the helplessness: “I knew. I felt both a child, helpless, and not a child… I wanted to be a child—and yet.” The abuse persisted until she was 14, a seven-year ordeal that left indelible scars. Mahoney’s control was psychological too; he ruled the household with a volatile temper, his “Pied Piper” allure masking a predator’s cunning.

Worse still was the silence from her mother. Margaret, herself an actress who had appeared in films like The Man from Planet X (1951), seemed oblivious—or willfully blind. Field grapples with this in her memoir: “I couldn’t expect protection to come from my mother.” Whether Margaret didn’t see the signs or chose not to, the betrayal compounded the trauma. Field learned early that vulnerability was dangerous; adults couldn’t be trusted. She honed survival skills: reading moods like a barometer, shrinking her presence to avoid storms, becoming the “agreeable” girl who faded into wallpaper. “I learned to disappear,” she writes, a tactic that would both save her and stifle her for decades.

Pasadena’s sunlit streets offered little escape. Field attended Portola Middle School and Birmingham High School in Van Nuys, where she threw herself into cheerleading alongside classmates like future financier Michael Milken and talent agent Michael Ovitz. Her friend Cindy Williams, a year behind, would later star in Laverne & Shirley. But beneath the pom-poms and pep rallies, turmoil brewed. At 17, Field faced another horror: an illegal abortion in Tijuana, during which she was molested by the doctor. She battled severe depression and an eating disorder, her body a battlefield for unprocessed pain. “This urgency, this anxiety, this need to find something that was festering in me,” she later reflected, crediting acting classes as her lifeline.

At 18, the spotlight beckoned—a double-edged sword. Field landed the title role in Gidget (1965-1966), ABC’s bubbly sitcom about a perky surfer girl. America fell for her wide-eyed charm, her freckled face beaming innocence. But it was a mask. “Like flipping a switch, I began to bubble,” she says in In Pieces. The show catapulted her to fame, but typecast her as the eternal ingenue. Next came The Flying Nun (1967-1970), where she donned a habit and soared through contrived antics. Critics dismissed it as fluff; Field chafed at the constraints. “I was trapped in this cute girl box,” she recalls. Yet these roles were armor, shielding the shadows within.

Behind the cameras, her personal life mirrored the chaos. In 1968, at 22, she married high school sweetheart Steven Craig, a union born of desperation for normalcy. They had two sons: Peter (born 1969), now a novelist and screenwriter (The Batman), and Eli (1972), an actor-director (Zombieland). But the marriage crumbled under Field’s unresolved trauma; they separated in 1973 and divorced in 1975. “I was trying to make it work this time,” she writes, “to fix something in me.” Enter Burt Reynolds, the mustachioed hunk of 1970s Hollywood. They met on Smokey and the Bandit (1977), igniting a fiery romance that spanned four films: Smokey and the Bandit II (1980), The End (1978), and Hooper (1978).

Reynolds, fresh off Deliverance (1972) and Boogie Nights (1997) later in life, was charismatic but controlling—echoing Mahoney’s duality. Their on-off relationship from 1976 to 1980 was turbulent, marked by jealousy and power imbalances. Field describes it in In Pieces as a trauma replay: “He was the love of my life? No, that’s what he invented later.” Reynolds proposed multiple times; she declined, sensing the toxicity. After their 1982 split, he publicly called her the “love of his life” before his 2018 death, a narrative Field debunked: “He invented it.” She later married producer Alan Greisman in 1984, with whom she had son Sam (1987), a writer. They divorced in 1994 amid mutual drift.

Professionally, Field fought to shatter her image. Post-Flying Nun, she starred in The Girl with Something Extra (1973-1974), but craved depth. In 1976, she delivered a tour de force in the TV movie Sybil, portraying a woman with multiple personalities stemming from childhood abuse. Drawing from her own pain, Field won her first Emmy for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Limited Series. “It was cathartic,” she says, though the parallels were unspoken then. The role signaled her transformation.

Then came Norma Rae (1979). As a textile worker unionizing against exploitation, Field channeled suppressed rage. Her character’s defiant stand—waving a “UNION” sign atop a table—mirrored Field’s own awakening. “When she unleashed her rage, I felt freed,” she writes. “If I could play her, I could be me.” The performance earned her first Oscar for Best Actress, her acceptance speech iconic: “You like me! You really like me!” Critics hailed it as a breakthrough; Field, 33, had escaped the “cute” trap.

Five years later, Places in the Heart (1984) brought another Oscar. As a Depression-era widow fighting to save her farm, Field infused the role with quiet resilience, drawing from her survival instincts. Her speech this time was poignant: “This means so much more to me this time.” Between Oscars, she starred in Absence of Malice (1981) opposite Paul Newman, earning a Golden Globe nod, and Kiss Me Goodbye (1982) with James Caan. In Murphy’s Romance (1985), she romanced James Garner, showcasing mature sensuality.

The 1980s and ’90s solidified her as a powerhouse. Steel Magnolias (1989) saw her as M’Lynn, a grieving mother whose breakdown scene—”I wanna know why!”—gutted audiences. Nominated for a Golden Globe, it highlighted her emotional depth. Soapdish (1991) let her flex comedic chops as a soap star. Mrs. Doubtfire (1993) paired her with Robin Williams, her Miranda a blend of vulnerability and strength. Then Forrest Gump (1994), as Mama Gump, delivering wisdom like “Life is like a box of chocolates” with heartfelt authenticity.

Entering the 2000s, Field conquered television again. A recurring role on ER (2000-2006) as Abby’s bipolar mother won her an Emmy for Outstanding Guest Actress. From 2006-2011, she anchored Brothers & Sisters as matriarch Nora Walker, earning another Emmy for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series. Her portrayal of a widow navigating family chaos resonated deeply, informed by her own losses—Mahoney died in 1989, her mother in 2011.

Film roles evolved too. In Lincoln (2012), she embodied Mary Todd Lincoln opposite Daniel Day-Lewis, earning an Oscar nod for Best Supporting Actress. Her Aunt May in The Amazing Spider-Man (2012) and sequel (2014) brought her to Marvel fans. Hello, My Name Is Doris (2015) showcased her as a quirky office worker pursuing romance, proving her range at 69. On stage, she debuted Broadway in The Goat, or Who Is Sylvia? (2002), returned in The Glass Menagerie (2017) for a Tony nod, and West End’s All My Sons (2019). Netflix’s Maniac (2018) and 80 for Brady (2023) kept her relevant.

Yet the buried truth festered. In 2012, while filming Lincoln, something fractured. “I could hardly breathe,” Field recalls. “I had to find what was festering.” At 65, she confronted her mother: “Fifty years after the first violation, I said the words.” Margaret’s denial stung, but it unlocked the floodgates. Field spent seven years writing In Pieces—not a celebrity tell-all, but a visceral reckoning. Published in 2018 by Grand Central, the 416-page memoir excavates abuse, the Tijuana abortion, eating disorders, punishing relationships, and therapy’s redemptive power.

One line pierces: “Because he was with me, I began to feel what I had been afraid to feel alone.” Reviews praised its honesty; The New York Times called it “darkened by abuse and illuminated by grace.” NPR noted her courage: “She wasn’t sure she’d have the guts.” Field’s voice, once silenced, roared.

Now, at 79, Field’s legacy transcends awards—two Oscars, three Emmys, a Kennedy Center Honor (2019). She’s a survivor who reclaimed her narrative, inspiring #MeToo voices. “The bravest thing I ever did was telling the truth,” she says. “Walking back into those rooms and naming the darkness.” In pieces, yes—but reassembled, her cracks let light flood in, illuminating paths for others. Sally Field didn’t just act resilience; she lived it, emerging unbreakable.

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